A White Man’s Perspective of a Black Woman With Natural Hair

By | September 7, 2016

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What do you think a white man’s perspective of a black woman with natural hair could be? I will begin this post by saying that I have not done a full-blown survey on this interview topic, but I have spoken with a few couples to get their feedback. It is a plan to harness the masses at a later date to see where their opinions rest.

So, without further ado, let’s hear the perspective of two white men on a black woman’s natural hair. Both interviewees have been married to their wives for a few years. They were not drawn together by the state of their wives’ hair, but by the serenade of their hearts. Yes, without a doubt, her appearance played a role in the attraction process, but I would not dare to say ( in this instance) that it was the mane attraction.

 

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Interview #1

The interviewee has opted to remain anonymous and will be referred to by initials – NH. He is Caucasian of European descent.

Question #1

What is the ethnicity of your wife or significant other?

NH

My wife is black and originates from one of the Caribbean Islands.

Question #2

How would you describe her hair?

NH

Her hair is pretty, curly and shoulder length at this point in time.

Question #3

How do you like it? Do you have a preference in terms of style, cut, color, texture?

NH

I like to see her hair when it is wet and curly in its natural state. She has recently cut her hair and it is really cute as it is now. She has naturally colored black hair, however, when she sees a few shades of grey, she uses natural products like Henna and Indigo to color her hair. I do not like the process because it smells like spinach and it takes a long time, however, when she’s finished, her hair is shiny, naturally black and soft to the touch. I admire her and her hair care regimen.

Question #4

Is your prior hair experience with a black woman with natural hair or other ethnicity? And how do you rate the hair in terms of beauty, texture, touchability – tactile effect?

NH

I love black women because of their diversity in more ways than one. I have had women of Caucasian ethnicity and different textured hair.

With the white women, I did not mind the texture, style or the cut. It did not matter if it was long or short. I found the hair soft, sometimes straight and not too much volume – sort of flat – not so nice. Ultimately, it was all about the individual woman’s self-confidence and how she wore her hair.  

My first black woman experience was with an African woman who had natural hair but she ‘lived’ in the world of weaves, braids, and wigs constantly. She would take out her false hair and immediately replace it with new false hair without taking care of her own hair. And the funny part was this – up to this day, I really do not know what her black natural hair really looked like or even what it felt like because all these ‘replacements’ would be done while I was at work or whenever she visited her relatives. As to her black natural hair’s beauty – I plead the fifth amendment on that question – I really do not know what her hair looked like.

Question #5

Which state of her hair do you prefer and why? Meaning – chemically treated, naturally maintained, or no hair -as in bald?

NH

Well, my current black hair experience is the best I have ever had! My wife takes great care of her hair all the time.  She does not use chemicals in her hair at all – all-natural black hair products.

I can tell you that with my last black natural hair experience the reasons why I did not like it –

  • there was false hair EVERYWHERE – in my office under the wheels of my desk rolling chair ( it stopped rolling because of the hair capture); in the bedroom all over the bed as well as very irritating in bed while I slept – the smell sometimes from the quality of the hair was stifling; in the bathroom – on the floor, in the bathtub ( I had to unclog the drain once a month); and in the kitchen – I am surprised that I did not eat hair as an additive ingredient with each meal
  • I could not touch the hair without being asked to be careful

With my current black natural hair experience, I love the fact that:

  • it is not falling out all over the place
  • it is one natural color and not all these different types of colors
  • it is soft to the touch
  • it is shiny as it reflects the light from her hair
  • it smells good
  • and I can play with it anytime!

 

 


 

Here is another interview. He is Canadian Caucasian of Armenian descent. And he too has opted to be anonymous and his initials are AD.

Interview #2

 

Question #1

What is the ethnicity of your wife or significant other?

AD

My wife is an American of Jamaican-Dominican heritage.

Question #2

How would you describe her hair?

AD

Her hair is very curly, healthy, fine-textured and beautiful.

Question #3

How do you like it? Do you have a preference in terms of style, cut, color, texture?

AD

There’s no one particular style I like over the others. I like when it’s in an Afro;  I like it when she has her hair in braids; and I like when she blow-dries and then flat-irons it to get a straight, sleek look. I guess the only preference I have is that I like it longer rather than shorter.

Question #4

Is your prior hair experience with a black woman with natural hair or other ethnicities? And how do you rate the hair in terms of beauty, texture, touchability – tactile effect?

AD

I have no prior experience. How do I rate it? Rate it according to what? If you mean – is her hair touchable? Then, the answer is yes.

Question #5

Which state of her hair do you prefer and why? Meaning – chemically treated, naturally cared for, no hair (bald)?

AD

I prefer her hair naturally cared for because it’s healthier for her.

 

Well, as you can see, both men were unashamedly honest in their opinions. Now I will leave it up to you to think about their thoughts and share your comments in the box below. Also, if you would be willing to participate in any surveys concerning hair and haircare, please let me know.

Thank you for stopping by.

 

 

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